Does anyone else think the phrase guilty pleasure is kind of pointless as it implies you should feel guilty about whatever you happen to enjoy that others may look down on you for liking. Which I saw bull at the end of the day are should like whatever you want and not feel guilty or ashamed of it ( granted the are definite exceptions to that). I mean I still ike playing pokemon and yu gi oh and on the odd time to time listen to music from tv shows i use to watch and I am 26 and alot of people know I enjoy them and have made fun of me for it , do i care ?

NO

Anyway rant over

What are your thoughts

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Eh guilty pleasure, I personally do feel a bit ashamed for liking something that I know I overall wouldn't like. Probably because I hate the thought of looking kiddy despite being 24 myself. But then, I don't play Pokémon not cause I think it's kiddy, but because it kind of doesn't really appeal to me after a few hours of playing...

Although if I could switch this to an overall "dumb phrases" thing, I'd say I never understood the point of "If you've got nothinc nice to say, say nothing at all". Doesn't make sense. Just cause you don't say it, doesn't mean you don't think it. And repressing the negative thing by not saying it can have terrible medical consequences later... trust me. I know.

C-A

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I don't care for the simplicity of the phrase, but it makes sense. There's nothing wrong with being honest, or asserting oneself. But honesty is not some green light for tactlessness, nor is it a license to deliver unsolicited opinions in every setting.

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I'm actually a big supporter of "If you've got nothing nice to say..." it works perfectly on paper, we just need more people to believe in it. If someone is actively slacking off at their job you can make an objective report to the right person in order to improve it or a suggestion. Actual ill will directed at others? There's no guarantee it'll accomplish anything, it's just an outlet for you to make someone else potentially feel like crap which might also get you in trouble. There are safe venues for outletting frustration but we shouldn't take it out on other people.

But that's not what we're here to talk about...



You are right in a lot of ways but these impressions are very VERY deeply ingrained. It's why I don't dare buy a game like Catherine from Atlus or DOA and play it at home...because it's a family household with kids and my folks already disapprove of gaming as much as it is without bringing home something that looks like the game equivalent of a playboy magazine (though that title probably goes to the Leisure Suite Larry series).

In the end it's about approval, if something's a guilty pleasure we keep it secret because we know it'd be upsetting to other people if they knew. Sure it's wrong and it'd be great if everyone could accept it and we ARE getting there.

Of course total acceptance won't ever be around, society would collapse if it was the case, how could we judge a murderer if we just fully accepted them and their behaviour? Relatively harmless hobbies SHOULD be accepted.

It's a world I can't really imagine, the internet both harms and helps the problem and in real life I think society is inching closer to it's own realistic non-judgemental solution in places but I think the phrase will always exist. Even if we get more accepting that bar will just shift and new (arguably more unacceptable things) will become guilty pleasures in place of the old ones.

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Well there is the term brutal honesty. And honesty is so rarely found these days, of course honesty will hurt people. Which is just... you know, just cause you don't wanna hear it, don't make it not true. Heck, one reason why I love Luke so much in Tales of the Abyss. He is brutally honest for the first arc. So rare to see, it's quite refreshing. Then again, at times I would prefer to hear the honest truth, even if it may not be nice to hear. Better than someone who just has this "I am totally holding back something 'rude'" smile.

C-A

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There's also folly in assuming "Just because I think it's so, it must mean it's right!" Your honest opinion might just be that...an opinion. Of course truth is valuable but if it's only the truth to you what value does it have to others?

'Brutal Honesty' is not often used positively. A person needs to earn the right to be so honest with a person otherwise they just come off as a condescending stranger.

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