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But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
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Adrian in black wrote:
I find people are vague when being specific carries with it an undesired risk of retaliation.
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
Thank you Miss Adrian...Why aren't you the voice of reason more often?
Ok, I'm back.
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Pierre wrote:
Sorry but when you come into the vent station complaining of something vague and how people don't listen. You can understand me wanting to say "what's up?"
Then a wall of silence and a reference about how Gnobo cheered you up XP
Hahaha I guess I'm venting about how people can be confusing XD
Then a wall of silence and a reference about how Gnobo cheered you up XP
Hahaha I guess I'm venting about how people can be confusing XD
Well, I always try my very best, of course!
Emiko's really fun to talk to, and I guess you can say I'm her little light in her darkness. ^^;
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The loneliness, I mean. You think you could talk to a person and it just vanishes.
Like breaking a window, once you do it you can feel the wind and the rain, and it all just washes away.
It never happens like that.
It's like looking out a crack in a stone building, just talking.
Just going in circles, I know they don't care, just people who only help to be seen,
People who only offer a kind word to appease a god, or to tell of their shallow kindness.
People who think the second nobody's looking would just as quickly steal, or lie, or destroy.
But I can see it, in their eyes.
I can see who they are.
Their cruelty, the hatred
I used to look into people eyes and see things, I could see kindness and innocence, and wisdom.
But now all I see is hate.
I learned something, a long time ago.
All the cruelties I've endured, all the soul crushing losses and the time spent alone can't hurt me.
Their hate can't hurt me if I hate myself even more.
If I don't let myself rise they can't strike me down, if I don't smile they can't take it away.
I guess that's why I'm content being alone, why expect anyone to love me when I hate myself so much?
But sometimes it still hurts, sometimes I just sit online and wait for someone to talk to me
But they never do.
Also I totally just woke my roomate up by knocking my fan into the wall, I heard him scream "WHAT THE FUCK!?"
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Emiko Gale wrote:
Adrian in black wrote:
I find people are vague when being specific carries with it an undesired risk of retaliation.
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
Thank you Miss Adrian...Why aren't you the voice of reason more often?
Ok, I'm back.
I'm too busy working. In places where people are vague when being specific carries with it an undesired risk of retaliation.
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Adrian in black wrote:
I find people are vague when being specific carries with it an undesired risk of retaliation.
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
You mean like being judged for saying something that's unpleasant or different from what everyone else thinks?
Sure. People fear what's different in their eyes, and they'll retaliate to fight away difference. If people weren't as judging of what's different, maybe more people wouldn't be afraid to be more specific.
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Gnobo wrote:
Adrian in black wrote:
I find people are vague when being specific carries with it an undesired risk of retaliation.
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
But then, that also seems to be the pattern when you've worked in one place for way too long, like me...
Also Emiko, you're leaving... what? Er, you mean this thread? It's your thread, you know...
You mean like being judged for saying something that's unpleasant or different from what everyone else thinks?
Sure. People fear what's different in their eyes, and they'll retaliate to fight away difference. If people weren't as judging of what's different, maybe more people wouldn't be afraid to be more specific.
Yeah...That would be nice.
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Yes, this is supreme sarcasm.
My god...!
Three months ago, I posted a comment on a video about obtaining the Zora Mask in Majora's Mask. Now, this was the first time I had seen Mikau's death for a really long time, I had forgotten the details about it. Seeing the scene of his death again just made me realize how freaking dumb that scene was. And my comment said how freaking weird that scene felt to me - yeah, there is a sad part in that scene. But it's wrapped in so much weirdness that I find myself incapable of feeling anything but "Wow this is a weird scene" despite a sad part in it.
And I made it clear - even on a topic where somebody said they're playing Majora's Mask and I mentioned how weird I thought the scene was, but said nothing bad about the rest of the game - that this is all my personal opinion. Other people can think Mikau's Death is super sad and all, I'm not gonna judge them. I'm not gonna call them idiots for liking that scene. I'll let them think it's sad just fine.
So why can't people just acknowledge that I think that scene is terribly weird? No, for almost three months now, I keep getting people still replying to it, calling me heartless or a bitch or call me stupid because I thought a different scene in a difference Zelda game was much sadder than Mikau's Death. Or flat out tell me to shut up - probably because I 'just don't get it'. Stupid idea. And they are still replying to it!
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CatMuto wrote:
Oh the internet is just filled with tolerance from all sides. Such a wonderful place to express personal opinions and get admired for stating them in a fashion that is not insulting to others.
Yes, this is supreme sarcasm.
My god...!
Three months ago, I posted a comment on a video about obtaining the Zora Mask in Majora's Mask. Now, this was the first time I had seen Mikau's death for a really long time, I had forgotten the details about it. Seeing the scene of his death again just made me realize how freaking dumb that scene was. And my comment said how freaking weird that scene felt to me - yeah, there is a sad part in that scene. But it's wrapped in so much weirdness that I find myself incapable of feeling anything but "Wow this is a weird scene" despite a sad part in it.
And I made it clear - even on a topic where somebody said they're playing Majora's Mask and I mentioned how weird I thought the scene was, but said nothing bad about the rest of the game - that this is all my personal opinion. Other people can think Mikau's Death is super sad and all, I'm not gonna judge them. I'm not gonna call them idiots for liking that scene. I'll let them think it's sad just fine.
So why can't people just acknowledge that I think that scene is terribly weird? No, for almost three months now, I keep getting people still replying to it, calling me heartless or a bitch or call me stupid because I thought a different scene in a difference Zelda game was much sadder than Mikau's Death. Or flat out tell me to shut up - probably because I 'just don't get it'. Stupid idea. And they are still replying to it!
C-A
P.S: OmG and people are even still asking me about the C-A thing! It's just a fucking signature, people, stop trying to make a big deal out of it!
Yes, this is supreme sarcasm.
My god...!
Three months ago, I posted a comment on a video about obtaining the Zora Mask in Majora's Mask. Now, this was the first time I had seen Mikau's death for a really long time, I had forgotten the details about it. Seeing the scene of his death again just made me realize how freaking dumb that scene was. And my comment said how freaking weird that scene felt to me - yeah, there is a sad part in that scene. But it's wrapped in so much weirdness that I find myself incapable of feeling anything but "Wow this is a weird scene" despite a sad part in it.
And I made it clear - even on a topic where somebody said they're playing Majora's Mask and I mentioned how weird I thought the scene was, but said nothing bad about the rest of the game - that this is all my personal opinion. Other people can think Mikau's Death is super sad and all, I'm not gonna judge them. I'm not gonna call them idiots for liking that scene. I'll let them think it's sad just fine.
So why can't people just acknowledge that I think that scene is terribly weird? No, for almost three months now, I keep getting people still replying to it, calling me heartless or a bitch or call me stupid because I thought a different scene in a difference Zelda game was much sadder than Mikau's Death. Or flat out tell me to shut up - probably because I 'just don't get it'. Stupid idea. And they are still replying to it!
C-A
P.S: OmG and people are even still asking me about the C-A thing! It's just a fucking signature, people, stop trying to make a big deal out of it!
I'm Blak, and I have shit taste.
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And I love it all the more for it. I like stuff to be weird.
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Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
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CatMuto wrote:
Of course, being a bridge day, it's likely people will take Friday off, too
Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
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Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
C-A
What is a 'bridge day' I've never heard that before.
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Pierre wrote:
CatMuto wrote:
Of course, being a bridge day, it's likely people will take Friday off, too
Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
C-A
Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
C-A
What is a 'bridge day' I've never heard that before.
Mh, not sure if there's an English term for it. I simply translated it from the German term 'Brückentag'. A bridge day is a day between a Holiday and the Weekend/another Holiday. It's quite common in Germany that people take off on these bridge days days (ie. Friday after a Holiday-Thursday) to get the most out of the vacation days they can take.
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CatMuto wrote:
Pierre wrote:
CatMuto wrote:
Of course, being a bridge day, it's likely people will take Friday off, too
Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
C-A
Unless America doesn't allow people to take off on 'bridge days'.
C-A
What is a 'bridge day' I've never heard that before.
Mh, not sure if there's an English term for it. I simply translated it from the German term 'Brückentag'. A bridge day is a day between a Holiday and the Weekend/another Holiday. It's quite common in Germany that people take off on these bridge days days (ie. Friday after a Holiday-Thursday) to get the most out of the vacation days they can take.
C-A
Ah right, we just call em long weekends
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But seriously...I'm tired of people on this site joking around with me when I'm being serious...You guys must think I truly the real life version of Maya Fey.
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I'm having a hard time finding a place to live in the town I'll have to move to in order to study something I'm not even sure is right for me. I have high expectations for myself - I feel like I want to accomplish something, but I don't know what, and while I struggle to find that it feels like I miss out on living life.
I guess I should do some soul searching around the world, but I'm an incredibly impatient man and I want to start getting somewhere in life.
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Thane wrote:
A thread dedicated to venting? Oh lawd Jesus...
I'm having a hard time finding a place to live in the town I'll have to move to in order to study something I'm not even sure is right for me. I have high expectations for myself - I feel like I want to accomplish something, but I don't know what, and while I struggle to find that it feels like I miss out on living life.
I guess I should do some soul searching around the world, but I'm an incredibly impatient man and I want to start getting somewhere in life.
I'm having a hard time finding a place to live in the town I'll have to move to in order to study something I'm not even sure is right for me. I have high expectations for myself - I feel like I want to accomplish something, but I don't know what, and while I struggle to find that it feels like I miss out on living life.
I guess I should do some soul searching around the world, but I'm an incredibly impatient man and I want to start getting somewhere in life.
XP Man that's some pretty tough stuff. I know the feeling man I wish I could make some of those uncertain steps in life but finances and restrictions apply.
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Pierre wrote:
Thane wrote:
A thread dedicated to venting? Oh lawd Jesus...
I'm having a hard time finding a place to live in the town I'll have to move to in order to study something I'm not even sure is right for me. I have high expectations for myself - I feel like I want to accomplish something, but I don't know what, and while I struggle to find that it feels like I miss out on living life.
I guess I should do some soul searching around the world, but I'm an incredibly impatient man and I want to start getting somewhere in life.
I'm having a hard time finding a place to live in the town I'll have to move to in order to study something I'm not even sure is right for me. I have high expectations for myself - I feel like I want to accomplish something, but I don't know what, and while I struggle to find that it feels like I miss out on living life.
I guess I should do some soul searching around the world, but I'm an incredibly impatient man and I want to start getting somewhere in life.
XP Man that's some pretty tough stuff. I know the feeling man I wish I could make some of those uncertain steps in life but finances and restrictions apply.
You said it. I don't know, I guess I still haven't found out what makes me me, or what is worth spending your entire life on. I also think I'd feel better after some traveling, but I need the money to be able to move and start studying.
I am officially confused and lost. Even though I have great parents who're always trying to help to the best of their abilities, this is something I have to figure out on my own - although I wouldn't mind someone pointing me in the right direction.
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Emiko Gale wrote:
*breathes deeply* Ok Emiko, you can make it through this...Even though you seriously want to yell right now but it could cause drama. Temptation is bad!
But seriously...I'm tired of people on this site joking around with me when I'm being serious...You guys must think I truly the real life version of Maya Fey.
But seriously...I'm tired of people on this site joking around with me when I'm being serious...You guys must think I truly the real life version of Maya Fey.
I don't notice people joking with you when you're being serious.
But then, I'm not on every thread...
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CatMuto wrote:
But then, I'm not on every thread...
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Could have fooled me.
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Thane wrote:
CatMuto wrote:
But then, I'm not on every thread...
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Could have fooled me.
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Pierre wrote:
Thane wrote:
CatMuto wrote:
But then, I'm not on every thread...
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Could have fooled me.
BOOOM Desk Jockey dropping the...sorta...burns.
That was a burn?
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Anyway, I want some advice.......Should I really follow my heart? Right now I should go to the college and ask for grants but I just feel uneasy. And yes I am perfectly aware that college will build a future for me...Nobody will shut up about it. But I'm basically lying to myself and truth is i don't want this. Not to mention my parents want me to do this so I can become a navy officer...I feel like I'm forcing myself to do this but something is telling me to not do it even though I don't want to get in trouble.
And as for my parents...You guys are probably wondering why I don't just leave. I basically have no where to go, and I got trust issues. I may not think the world is an evil place like my parents do but I'm not sparkle eyed. And part of me doesn't want to leave, besides even though it's next to impossible I want my parents' approval...It would be too easy if I simply left and if I leave with negative emotions I'm.probably not going to get too far.
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That said, you're not me, and I don't know if you're in a position to do as I did in the first place. You're giving the impression that your parents are more controlling and less understanding than mine, so even if you are in a position to take a year off, it's possible it wouldn't benefit you as much as it did me.
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See, as an imperfect little human being, I tend to be a bit of a screw-up sometimes...Ok maybe a little more than I feel comfortable with...Ok maybe more than should be average. Point is, I'm not perfect.
But sometimes, I just get aggravated with myself over my own failures. Like if I take a look at my report card, and I notice that my average drops from a 92 to a 91. I'm dissapointed at myself for failing to do my best, and I'm also scared that I won't be accepted to the college that I want to go to. Or if I fail at making a close friend of mine feel better if they've had a crummy day, I feel useless and non-impacting to them because I couldn't help them change.
I have a feeling that maybe this is why I hate it when people try to point out my flaws to me and criticize me, because I already do enough of that to myself. This was also the reason why my relationship with a past friend of mine got rough. She'd sometimes go out of her way to point out something I do wrong or something that's so trivial, and it made me so frustrated that I just stopped talking with her. I believe it was because I almost ruined a friendship of hers, and she probably didn't forgive me (long story short: Don't gossip about other people behind their backs, especially if you have a tendency to get facts wrong!)
So...yeah, that's a thing about me.
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As for feeling inferior when you fail to meet a particular goal, that's reminiscent of perfectionism. Despite its common use as a cop-out in job interviews, it's really not a good condition. You're doing wonderfully, getting high grades left and right... then suddenly, life gets a massive difficulty spike and your grades plummet. You'll probably blame yourself, and there's a good chance your parents will reinforce that perception by wondering why you're suddenly not doing as well. I remember getting that wake-up call when my near-perfect math grades in elementary school landed me in Honors Algebra in middle school. I was out of my element; I didn't get the preparation most students in that class had gotten, so I didn't do as well. As a result, my math grades plummeted. They never really recovered, either--I managed to keep them from being Fs, but As became a rare treat as the tempo picked up and my focus became adapting to new challenges rather than becoming better at existing ones.
Bottom line: you're not perfect, as you said, and it is unhealthy to assume you should be.
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General Luigi wrote:
I kind of know where you're coming from there, Gnobo. People at my high school tended to be ridiculously nervous about whether or not they'd be accepted into their first-choice colleges. It was as though they felt the decision of a college they had applied to was essentially the world's judgment of their quality as a human being. Of course, I'm told plenty of high schools are even worse with the whole "college sets your fate in stone" nonsense. Yeah, it's nice to be accepted into the college you wanted to attend, but it's not the end of the world if you're rejected. I feel people sometimes lose track of who they are when they obsess over presenting themselves as the perfect student.
As for feeling inferior when you fail to meet a particular goal, that's reminiscent of perfectionism. Despite its common use as a cop-out in job interviews, it's really not a good condition. You're doing wonderfully, getting high grades left and right... then suddenly, life gets a massive difficulty spike and your grades plummet. You'll probably blame yourself, and there's a good chance your parents will reinforce that perception by wondering why you're suddenly not doing as well. I remember getting that wake-up call when my near-perfect math grades in elementary school landed me in Honors Algebra in middle school. I was out of my element; I didn't get the preparation most students in that class had gotten, so I didn't do as well. As a result, my math grades plummeted. They never really recovered, either--I managed to keep them from being Fs, but As became a rare treat as the tempo picked up and my focus became adapting to new challenges rather than becoming better at existing ones.
Bottom line: you're not perfect, as you said, and it is unhealthy to assume you should be.
As for feeling inferior when you fail to meet a particular goal, that's reminiscent of perfectionism. Despite its common use as a cop-out in job interviews, it's really not a good condition. You're doing wonderfully, getting high grades left and right... then suddenly, life gets a massive difficulty spike and your grades plummet. You'll probably blame yourself, and there's a good chance your parents will reinforce that perception by wondering why you're suddenly not doing as well. I remember getting that wake-up call when my near-perfect math grades in elementary school landed me in Honors Algebra in middle school. I was out of my element; I didn't get the preparation most students in that class had gotten, so I didn't do as well. As a result, my math grades plummeted. They never really recovered, either--I managed to keep them from being Fs, but As became a rare treat as the tempo picked up and my focus became adapting to new challenges rather than becoming better at existing ones.
Bottom line: you're not perfect, as you said, and it is unhealthy to assume you should be.
Ironically, my parents actually don't enforce perfectionism on me, it's all from my own fear of letting them down. Sure they might ask why my grades have been doing not as well as before, but I believe they wouldn't judge me for that or criticize me, and that's why I love them both so much!
But I really do wish some people weren't as nit-picky about other people's faults when it isn't there business! I also knew a kid who was also a huge perfectionist, who got exceedingly high grades left and right, and almost never faltered. But when he did he got pretty upset. Anyways, he was one of those people who was so perfectionistic, he would point out other people's mistakes, including mine. One time, he got so aggravated with me and how I have a problem focusing, that he claimed I must have ADD. Yeah, that's another thing that really grinds my gears: when people try to prove that I have a mental disorder.
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I thinking I am getting seriously close to hating a certain someone...And this is rare for me...And I am trying to calm myself down because I know hate starts wars. (Oh, unpopular opinion...Say it isn't so.)
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I thinking I am getting seriously close to hating a certain someone...And this is rare for me...And I am trying to calm myself down because I know hate starts wars. (Oh, unpopular opinion...Say it isn't so.)
Eh, as long as you aren't in constant contact with that person, I don't think it's bad to hate someone. Unless you are in contact with that person, in which case I'd try to avoid contact... it'll just make you angry and you'll waste your energy being angry. It really isn't worth it.
And how come my mom made decisions on my birthday? We're gonna go out for dinner and yesterday I suggested a place we go to sometimes - we haven't been there in months, anyway. Plus, it's really close to home, only about 15 minutes walking, and its cheap. But no, Mom thought it wasn't special cause we frequent it and chose a different one that I have never been to.
Not to mention that she invited her boyfriend along. Look, I don't hate the boyfriend or anything. And I did say yesterday I'm not sure if I want him there, but don't just do something like that. But she knows I'm socially awkward, that I have trouble clearly saying "No I don't want this person there".
God why did she tell me her decisions when I'm still in a semi-sleep condition?
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