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I'm exhausted with most things, and I don't feel like I can talk to anyone. Everyone I love has enough problems of their own, and my therapist is booked up until mid-January.
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Has anyone here done this test about emotions?its kind of funny
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I love tests like this! I know it's pseudoscience-y, but it's still pretty fun.
... My results were way off, though. Oh well.
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Has anyone here done this test about emotions?its kind of funny
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"Strongly resists any limits given her or disputes directed toward her. Stubborn, close-minded, and is hard to change her mind once it is made up. Uses her stubbornness as a way to prove she is independent and in control of the situation."
Who created this test? My mom?
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I don't know why, but these kind of things always are so much more trouble then you anticipate. On several occasions I felt like I wanted to hit the people who worked with me on this paper.
The reason for this is the content of our paper. in short it was about what mothers need to combine an international career with children/family. The trouble lies with how my group wanted to approach the subject. We started with a literature study to find out what these 'enablers' were, however the information became more and more one-sided. In fact, our research began to sound more and more feministic with every passing hour.
I was starting to think a conclusion was already reached before we started analyzing the literary research and actually performing a research for ourselves. I started to talk about it in the group: 2 women, a guy who agrees with everything and myself. I said that we need to research both ways: what makes them successful and what doesn't, so we would reach a valid and unbiased result.
Apparently that makes me a sour critic. My motives and drive to complete the research were questioned multiple times simply for saying stuff like: are you sure that information is true? or what about x/y/z?
Luckily I managed to turn our group around (or they just gave in, but whatever) to have an unbiased view on the research as we are conducting it. It wasn't all bad off course, but saying things like: "don't draw conclusions until we have all the data and analyzed it" should be redundant for last year University students.
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I've made a big mistake. I thought I could handle a choice I made, but it was the straw that broke the camel's back; I desperately wish I could go back on it without making things worse. Worst of all, I feel like I've reverted back to who I was a year ago, and I don't like that feeling one bit. This past week has felt like pedaling swiftly backwards in all ways.
I'm exhausted with most things, and I don't feel like I can talk to anyone. Everyone I love has enough problems of their own, and my therapist is booked up until mid-January.
I'm exhausted with most things, and I don't feel like I can talk to anyone. Everyone I love has enough problems of their own, and my therapist is booked up until mid-January.
I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. I've recently felt like I'm going backwards with some of the problems in my life. I'm not seeing my psychologist till January either.
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Oh wow, this was pretty accurate! Not on everything, but quite a bit was correct.
Spoiler: Quite lengthy XD
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Sjibbey, that's a reason why I dislike assignments that involve a group. There are people who want to check everything before writing something, but others just want to get it over with. I would rather work on my own and go at my own pace, check up all the things I may want cause it may spark my interest, rather than work with someone who is all "Who cares, screw the details, just do it"
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Thank you...
Thank you so much. I feel exactly the same way.
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I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. I've recently felt like I'm going backwards with some of the problems in my life. I'm not seeing my psychologist till January either.
I'm so sorry to hear that. We'll both have to manage somehow, I guess. Until then...
Here's a cute kitty I found for you.
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EDITED
I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present, and I couldn't answer, everyone was getting things like cars, or going on an overseas holiday, and all I could say was 'nothing', which really surprised one of my teachers, as I think she got the impression my parents were stingy, which I really hope is not the case. I'm normally pretty good with these situations though, as right now I'm seeing positives that counter the things I'm writing, but this is a 'vent station' so I might let it out.
Also school is now over. I'm really going to miss all the teachers I made friends with. (A lot of my music teachers were awesome, and I got on good terms with one of our co-ordinators, and so It'll be hard to talk with them all again, but I know with internet and all I'll still be able to.) I made some great friends that I hope I'll keep, and one friend that is one of those that gets close, and uses you for help, and gives nothing in return, which I don't like, but he's been a friend for so long (for 11 years), so I've let that behaviour slide, and I'm hoping he'll turn around, and not be a dick (to put it blatantly).
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I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present
I think my "present" for finishing high school and graduating... I was gonna say, it was lunch at a restaurant, but I think that was dinner at a restaurant, after I was on stage for the band a year before that... I think my only "gift" was that I had finished.
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CatMuto wrote:
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I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present
I think my "present" for finishing high school and graduating... I was gonna say, it was lunch at a restaurant, but I think that was dinner at a restaurant, after I was on stage for the band a year before that... I think my only "gift" was that I had finished.
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Haha, well, I did get to pick what we got for lunch, but that's completely different compared to everyone else, and although I'm fine with it, I felt a little out of place.
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Ah vent station. get ready for my dump of negativity in 3... 2... 1!
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I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present, and I couldn't answer, everyone was getting things like cars, or going on an overseas holiday, and all I could say was 'nothing', which really surprised one of my teachers, as I think she got the impression my parents were stingy, which I really hope is not the case. I'm normally pretty good with these situations though, as right now I'm seeing positives that counter the things I'm writing, but this is a 'vent station' so I might let it out.
Also school is now over. I'm really going to miss all the teachers I made friends with. (A lot of my music teachers were awesome, and I got on good terms with one of our co-ordinators, and so It'll be hard to talk with them all again, but I know with internet and all I'll still be able to.) I made some great friends that I hope I'll keep, and one friend that is one of those that gets close, and uses you for help, and gives nothing in return, which I don't like, but he's been a friend for so long (for 11 years), so I've let that behaviour slide, and I'm hoping he'll turn around, and not be a dick (to put it blatantly).
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I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present, and I couldn't answer, everyone was getting things like cars, or going on an overseas holiday, and all I could say was 'nothing', which really surprised one of my teachers, as I think she got the impression my parents were stingy, which I really hope is not the case. I'm normally pretty good with these situations though, as right now I'm seeing positives that counter the things I'm writing, but this is a 'vent station' so I might let it out.
Also school is now over. I'm really going to miss all the teachers I made friends with. (A lot of my music teachers were awesome, and I got on good terms with one of our co-ordinators, and so It'll be hard to talk with them all again, but I know with internet and all I'll still be able to.) I made some great friends that I hope I'll keep, and one friend that is one of those that gets close, and uses you for help, and gives nothing in return, which I don't like, but he's been a friend for so long (for 11 years), so I've let that behaviour slide, and I'm hoping he'll turn around, and not be a dick (to put it blatantly).
If it's any consolation I didn't get a present for secondary school either. I don't think I know many people that did either. I got rewarded for decent exam results from time to time but nothing for simply leaving school.
An yeah it is a shame for the teachers but it's not so bad, you might see some of them again and that's nice enough. Also while your friends will probably scatter a bit, if you go into higher education there will probably still be a few you can keep in contact with. None of the mine actually went to my university so I had to start from scratch there, though some went to another university in the same city and through them I made new friends over there as well so it's not that bad.
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If it's any consolation I didn't get a present for secondary school either. I don't think I know many people that did either. I got rewarded for decent exam results from time to time but nothing for simply leaving school.
An yeah it is a shame for the teachers but it's not so bad, you might see some of them again and that's nice enough. Also while your friends will probably scatter a bit, if you go into higher education there will probably still be a few you can keep in contact with. None of the mine actually went to my university so I had to start from scratch there, though some went to another university in the same city and through them I made new friends over there as well so it's not that bad.
An yeah it is a shame for the teachers but it's not so bad, you might see some of them again and that's nice enough. Also while your friends will probably scatter a bit, if you go into higher education there will probably still be a few you can keep in contact with. None of the mine actually went to my university so I had to start from scratch there, though some went to another university in the same city and through them I made new friends over there as well so it's not that bad.
Thanks for the response. I'm fine with not getting anything, I shouldn't let it phase me.
Making new friends means using my people skills... This will be a tough challenge indeed.
(I worry that I won't find friends with my interests, but I'm hoping to be surprised!)
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SuperAj3 wrote:
Pierre wrote:
If it's any consolation I didn't get a present for secondary school either. I don't think I know many people that did either. I got rewarded for decent exam results from time to time but nothing for simply leaving school.
An yeah it is a shame for the teachers but it's not so bad, you might see some of them again and that's nice enough. Also while your friends will probably scatter a bit, if you go into higher education there will probably still be a few you can keep in contact with. None of the mine actually went to my university so I had to start from scratch there, though some went to another university in the same city and through them I made new friends over there as well so it's not that bad.
An yeah it is a shame for the teachers but it's not so bad, you might see some of them again and that's nice enough. Also while your friends will probably scatter a bit, if you go into higher education there will probably still be a few you can keep in contact with. None of the mine actually went to my university so I had to start from scratch there, though some went to another university in the same city and through them I made new friends over there as well so it's not that bad.
Thanks for the response. I'm fine with not getting anything, I shouldn't let it phase me.
Making new friends means using my people skills... This will be a tough challenge indeed.
(I worry that I won't find friends with my interests, but I'm hoping to be surprised!)XD It can be daunting. Way I did it was I promised myself I'd say "hi" to at least one new person on the first day of university. Then that guy added another to our clique, then I met another and we shared interests so he joined in. Eventually we had a pretty solid group which really helped when we all had group projects.
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Mirii-chan wrote:
I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. I've recently felt like I'm going backwards with some of the problems in my life. I'm not seeing my psychologist till January either.
I'm so sorry to hear that. We'll both have to manage somehow, I guess. Until then...
Here's a cute kitty I found for you.
I hope next year is better for everyone.
Aww, well that just made my day!
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I am so done with everything. I couldn't care less what happens here on out.
Don't you dare pulling a 'tophatprofessor' on me now.
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I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present
I think my "present" for finishing high school and graduating... I was gonna say, it was lunch at a restaurant, but I think that was dinner at a restaurant, after I was on stage for the band a year before that... I think my only "gift" was that I had finished.
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I'm not sure how this works in other countries and cultures, but after graduating it's unlikely to receive something for it, unless you are from quite a wealthy family.
The way it works around here is: you graduate and throw a big party. As compensation for the costs of said party and to congratulate you people bring presents or (hallmark like)cards with money. Depending on how many friends and family you have (plus how wealthy the are of course) you make a 'profit' on your celebration. You can use this money to buy your own present.
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Why is nobody making a big stink out of that? Come on, this is a huge thing to happen to the world of Auldrant and nobody seems to give a fuck! Yeah, there's a scene where you can go to the memorial, but that's a sidequest and not mandatory to ever encounter. It's, like, completely forgotten, that this event ever happened!
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Sjibbey wrote:
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I just finished my schooling, and was acknowledged at our high achiever's night, and everyone was asking what I'd get as a present
I think my "present" for finishing high school and graduating... I was gonna say, it was lunch at a restaurant, but I think that was dinner at a restaurant, after I was on stage for the band a year before that... I think my only "gift" was that I had finished.
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I'm not sure how this works in other countries and cultures, but after graduating it's unlikely to receive something for it, unless you are from quite a wealthy family.
The way it works around here is: you graduate and throw a big party. As compensation for the costs of said party and to congratulate you people bring presents or (hallmark like)cards with money. Depending on how many friends and family you have (plus how wealthy the are of course) you make a 'profit' on your celebration. You can use this money to buy your own present.
OK, everyone here seems to get a present from their family to congratulate them, as well as hold a party. Although parties here are held for fun, so people don't feel obliged to bring any gifts, seeing as the party's host is meant to provide everything.
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OK, everyone here seems to get a present from their family to congratulate them, as well as hold a party. Although parties here are held for fun, so people don't feel obliged to bring any gifts, seeing as the party's host is meant to provide everything.
I dunno... I remember some of my friends got money for good grades, while I got little gifts if I got good grades. And I never asked for stuff or got stuff that was worth much. Heck, I don't think I ever listened once to that Mozart CD I asked for years ago.
And in school we had a little celebration when graduating. Hugging your teachers is weird.
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CatMuto wrote:
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OK, everyone here seems to get a present from their family to congratulate them, as well as hold a party. Although parties here are held for fun, so people don't feel obliged to bring any gifts, seeing as the party's host is meant to provide everything.
I dunno... I remember some of my friends got money for good grades, while I got little gifts if I got good grades. And I never asked for stuff or got stuff that was worth much. Heck, I don't think I ever listened once to that Mozart CD I asked for years ago.
And in school we had a little celebration when graduating. Hugging your teachers is weird.
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Hehe, I'm the same in that I never really ask for anything when I do well, I've never seen it as necessary, but hearing everyone get cars and I didn't made me think (I wish I could get something cool like that
) I'm just being selfish though, aren't I? Hugging teachers is fine if you get to know them well, but if it's like my Year 6 teacher, who was an elderly strict lady that made us hug her in order to leave class once, then I'd understand that it's weird.
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Then again, I never got "Good Grades" all that often. Getting an A in English wasn't a big feat, after all, and since I have no idea how to study, and I usually didn't study, I got a lot of Bs and Cs. Except in math, where I could get a D...
I was more referring to happy, congratulatory hugs and hugging-pose for pictures on graduation day.
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A couple of cousins (from much wealthier families than my own) got assets worth a couple thousand dollars each for their graduation presents. It was pretty weird how while we were all eating together, they were discussing this stuff casually and I was just like
Today, I almost got into a Twitter row with a (white male) feminist regarding an off-hand remark I made about not knowing the gender of one of the popular personae in cryptography discussions (whose name is Mallory).
I sympathise with feminism - I really do. However, I'm not sure I appreciate being made to feel like a bad guy over stuff like this! Sexism works both ways - might be skewed towards one end, but the fact remains.
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People getting presents for graduating high school of all things is a pretty strange concept to me, to be honest.
A couple of cousins (from much wealthier families than my own) got assets worth a couple thousand dollars each for their graduation presents. It was pretty weird how while we were all eating together, they were discussing this stuff casually and I was just like
Today, I almost got into a Twitter row with a (white male) feminist regarding an off-hand remark I made about not knowing the gender of one of the popular personae in cryptography discussions (whose name is Mallory).
I sympathise with feminism - I really do. However, I'm not sure I appreciate being made to feel like a bad guy over stuff like this! Sexism works both ways - might be skewed towards one end, but the fact remains.
A couple of cousins (from much wealthier families than my own) got assets worth a couple thousand dollars each for their graduation presents. It was pretty weird how while we were all eating together, they were discussing this stuff casually and I was just like
Today, I almost got into a Twitter row with a (white male) feminist regarding an off-hand remark I made about not knowing the gender of one of the popular personae in cryptography discussions (whose name is Mallory).
I sympathise with feminism - I really do. However, I'm not sure I appreciate being made to feel like a bad guy over stuff like this! Sexism works both ways - might be skewed towards one end, but the fact remains.
Don't sweat it man, not all feminists are that intense but you get outliers in any kind of community.
It's why I tend to avoid feminist media, the more outspoken ones I find are the ones most aggressive in their beliefs. I know I'm not a bad guy for simple mistakes like that so you shouldn't feel a bad guy, just shrug and know they are being ridiculous.
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I hold the door a bit for other people and I overall get thanks majority of the time, (Yeah, Germans are SO rude...) although sometimes I am also the type who won't open the other half of the door on the train when people are getting out or want to go in because sometimes I'm just so annoyed at them, "Open it your damn self if you wanna go in/out!"
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So the popular condescending intellectual friend is throwing a New Years Party. Last year Friend A went but he had to leave another Friend B on his own for New Years and so felt guilty about it. This year he asked the host if friend B could come along, the host vehemently refused. There's a number of reasons, the host doesn't have much in common with friend B but there's a fair few folks at the party so it shouldn't be such an issue.
So a bit peeved off Friend A opts to ditch the party and go hang out with Friend B (like a cool fellah). Then Friend C hears about this and being on great terms with Friend A is also pretty irritated and is thinking of boycotting the party. It's the same situation with me I'm good friends with A B and C and so I'm tempted to do the same as well.
This might also cause a certain very well respected and popular Friend D to boycott the party as well, or at least put him in an awkward situation. We'd all committed to going to the Host's party and backing out now on account of this to have a party creates a bit of a social divide.
Way I see it there's two outcomes, the host caves to social pressure and relents on the ban, earning the rest of us snide looks for the next however long for pulling this social stunt on him.
Or we have the party elsewhere (possibly at my place since it's probably most spacious), which would pull guests from the host's party and still earn us snide looks for the next however long.
*sigh* I hate social games like this but he brought it on himself for being so cruel.
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I don't vent much but ah, there's an awkward social situation.
So the popular condescending intellectual friend is throwing a New Years Party. Last year Friend A went but he had to leave another Friend B on his own for New Years and so felt guilty about it. This year he asked the host if friend B could come along, the host vehemently refused. There's a number of reasons, the host doesn't have much in common with friend B but there's a fair few folks at the party so it shouldn't be such an issue.
So a bit peeved off Friend A opts to ditch the party and go hang out with Friend B (like a cool fellah). Then Friend C hears about this and being on great terms with Friend A is also pretty irritated and is thinking of boycotting the party. It's the same situation with me I'm good friends with A B and C and so I'm tempted to do the same as well.
This might also cause a certain very well respected and popular Friend D to boycott the party as well, or at least put him in an awkward situation. We'd all committed to going to the Host's party and backing out now on account of this to have a party creates a bit of a social divide.
Way I see it there's two outcomes, the host caves to social pressure and relents on the ban, earning the rest of us snide looks for the next however long for pulling this social stunt on him.
Or we have the party elsewhere (possibly at my place since it's probably most spacious), which would pull guests from the host's party and still earn us snide looks for the next however long.
*sigh* I hate social games like this but he brought it on himself for being so cruel.
So the popular condescending intellectual friend is throwing a New Years Party. Last year Friend A went but he had to leave another Friend B on his own for New Years and so felt guilty about it. This year he asked the host if friend B could come along, the host vehemently refused. There's a number of reasons, the host doesn't have much in common with friend B but there's a fair few folks at the party so it shouldn't be such an issue.
So a bit peeved off Friend A opts to ditch the party and go hang out with Friend B (like a cool fellah). Then Friend C hears about this and being on great terms with Friend A is also pretty irritated and is thinking of boycotting the party. It's the same situation with me I'm good friends with A B and C and so I'm tempted to do the same as well.
This might also cause a certain very well respected and popular Friend D to boycott the party as well, or at least put him in an awkward situation. We'd all committed to going to the Host's party and backing out now on account of this to have a party creates a bit of a social divide.
Way I see it there's two outcomes, the host caves to social pressure and relents on the ban, earning the rest of us snide looks for the next however long for pulling this social stunt on him.
Or we have the party elsewhere (possibly at my place since it's probably most spacious), which would pull guests from the host's party and still earn us snide looks for the next however long.
*sigh* I hate social games like this but he brought it on himself for being so cruel.
Ah, I've been in a similar situation, being in Friend B's position, not being invited to a party hosted by that one friend who can be so cruel, yet is still popular and intelligent. Unfortunately, I didn't have any friends like A,C, and D to comfort me, and they just talked about it and brought it up for about a week when we were all together, so I've been left out. It didn't bother me, that friend that excluded me has done nothing but drink alcohol since he graduated, so I don't think he's future is bright, and I ended up getting a higher score than him, so that put an end to him talking up his intelligence, and how I was doing the 'dumb maths', as I wasn't doing the algebra based mathematics like he was.
I think the best outcome is to comfort the friend who was left out (Although, holding another party to combat the one he was left out of would cause an issue). Snide looks from others are only temporary, and comforting a friend is a lot better than going to a party of someone who sounds like they're a bit arrogant (I don't know your friend party hosting friend is though).
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Pierre wrote:
I don't vent much but ah, there's an awkward social situation.
So the popular condescending intellectual friend is throwing a New Years Party. Last year Friend A went but he had to leave another Friend B on his own for New Years and so felt guilty about it. This year he asked the host if friend B could come along, the host vehemently refused. There's a number of reasons, the host doesn't have much in common with friend B but there's a fair few folks at the party so it shouldn't be such an issue.
So a bit peeved off Friend A opts to ditch the party and go hang out with Friend B (like a cool fellah). Then Friend C hears about this and being on great terms with Friend A is also pretty irritated and is thinking of boycotting the party. It's the same situation with me I'm good friends with A B and C and so I'm tempted to do the same as well.
This might also cause a certain very well respected and popular Friend D to boycott the party as well, or at least put him in an awkward situation. We'd all committed to going to the Host's party and backing out now on account of this to have a party creates a bit of a social divide.
Way I see it there's two outcomes, the host caves to social pressure and relents on the ban, earning the rest of us snide looks for the next however long for pulling this social stunt on him.
Or we have the party elsewhere (possibly at my place since it's probably most spacious), which would pull guests from the host's party and still earn us snide looks for the next however long.
*sigh* I hate social games like this but he brought it on himself for being so cruel.
So the popular condescending intellectual friend is throwing a New Years Party. Last year Friend A went but he had to leave another Friend B on his own for New Years and so felt guilty about it. This year he asked the host if friend B could come along, the host vehemently refused. There's a number of reasons, the host doesn't have much in common with friend B but there's a fair few folks at the party so it shouldn't be such an issue.
So a bit peeved off Friend A opts to ditch the party and go hang out with Friend B (like a cool fellah). Then Friend C hears about this and being on great terms with Friend A is also pretty irritated and is thinking of boycotting the party. It's the same situation with me I'm good friends with A B and C and so I'm tempted to do the same as well.
This might also cause a certain very well respected and popular Friend D to boycott the party as well, or at least put him in an awkward situation. We'd all committed to going to the Host's party and backing out now on account of this to have a party creates a bit of a social divide.
Way I see it there's two outcomes, the host caves to social pressure and relents on the ban, earning the rest of us snide looks for the next however long for pulling this social stunt on him.
Or we have the party elsewhere (possibly at my place since it's probably most spacious), which would pull guests from the host's party and still earn us snide looks for the next however long.
*sigh* I hate social games like this but he brought it on himself for being so cruel.
I honestly think you should make peace between B and the Host by talking and reasoning with both of them.
Tell the host what he did was rude and uncool. If the host changes his/her ways, have both you and the host talk it out with B.
This advice may or may not work, but I think it would solve the problem and rebuild bridges.
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No party, just you and your friends hang out with Friend B the night of the party. Don't make a real party out of it, just hang out and have a good time. The Host Friend should be the type to expect that not everyone is gonna come a party, even if they say they'll come.
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CatMuto wrote:
My suggestion about that problem?
No party, just you and your friends hang out with Friend B the night of the party. Don't make a real party out of it, just hang out and have a good time. The Host Friend should be the type to expect that not everyone is gonna come a party, even if they say they'll come.
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No party, just you and your friends hang out with Friend B the night of the party. Don't make a real party out of it, just hang out and have a good time. The Host Friend should be the type to expect that not everyone is gonna come a party, even if they say they'll come.
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Don't misunderstand, it's not a 'party' in that kind of sense.
I'm not throwing a rival party out of spite, but I'm hanging out with my closer friends who are boycotting the party in favour of Friend B. I wouldn't be inviting anyone else, it's just a hangout like you suggested Cat, except on New Years, with much jubilations. However even a hangout will be perceived negatively as it'll have pulled a few select guests from his party. The Host is on good terms with Friend A and Friend C and (I suppose) me as well before this incident.
Also for further clarification, Friend B hasn't actually got any problem with the party Host. Friend B can be a little slow and socially awkward at times and some of us suspect the host also doesn't want him around just for that.
Though don't get me wrong, it's not like the rival party is a sure plan, we're hoping that before all that, in an attempt to save face the Host will concede to social pressure from us talking him down and relent on his ban. In which case we can all go to the original party but like I said
This will still get us dirty looks the rest of the night for going against his wishes.
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Armchair activisms? XD
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CatMuto wrote:
I fail to see the real problem, actually... after all, the host should not get a hissy fit, just because some of his friends choose to hang with someone else instead of him on New Year's Eve. I mean, that's just petty. And nobody else should give you shit-looks for doing it.
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I suppose you are right, it's just exasperation that the host would do this way when it's going to cause a clear social split.
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There's really no polite way of telling someone their feet stink is there.
Oh and I have to um..... start my Christmas shopping today. I am the worst person and I'm annoyed at myself because I'm SO FUCKING LAZY.
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Louise wrote:
I can't eat my dinner because my colleague has her shoes off and her feet reek. Nothing makes me grumpy like being hungry so I might end up just crying.
There's really no polite way of telling someone their feet stink is there.
There's really no polite way of telling someone their feet stink is there.
Well it's impossible to be polite and honest simutaneously every time. If it's bothering you, you should be honest - living with other person always requires adjustments, after all.
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Louise wrote:
I can't eat my dinner because my colleague has her shoes off and her feet reek. Nothing makes me grumpy like being hungry so I might end up just crying.
There's really no polite way of telling someone their feet stink is there.
Oh and I have to um..... start my Christmas shopping today. I am the worst person and I'm annoyed at myself because I'm SO FUCKING LAZY.
There's really no polite way of telling someone their feet stink is there.
Oh and I have to um..... start my Christmas shopping today. I am the worst person and I'm annoyed at myself because I'm SO FUCKING LAZY.
If it's at work s'far as I know you mention the issue to a manager and just ask to be kept anonymous and they'll get on at them for personal hygiene or something like that.
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